I had a couple of parenting- related questions asked of me. John and I are still trying to figure out this whole parenting thing. But with God's grace (and some super awesome kids) we are getting through it.
I would be interested to know what style of child rearing do you use? Or what book do you think represents best?
We actually do use a book! When Lilly (our oldest) was about 6 months old someone gave us a copy of To Train Up a Child by Michael and Debi Pearl. We read it, prayed about it, and started using the techniques it recommended. It requires a lot of consistency to work. We've had times were we (okay....I) slacked off and we saw a major difference. This book works for our family. I can't say if it would work for everyone but we have been truly blessed by it.My best advice....pray for wisdom daily. I was reading Proverbs 2 this morning and it was talking about those who ask for wisdom and understand will receive it. Aww...what a breath of fresh air for us parents who are clueless (me! me! me!) that God will be there to keep us going!
My question would be do you have any advice for a mom who is a bit nervous, and or scared about having another baby? Does having a second child just come naturally and does everything fall into place?
Funny, but out of all the questions people asked, this is the one I have been thinking about the most! I remember when I was pregnant with my second child being so upset because I honestly didn't think I could love another child as much as I loved Lilly. I felt so bad for this poor baby that was about to be born! But then, after the baby was born, it was like my heart grew bigger. I couldn't believe how much I loved this little boy! I'm not really sure what your fears and concerns are. But I assure you that each one of my children has been a HUGE blessing to me. Yes, with each one, I've had to grow in patience and flexibility but when I like of the joy that they've brought to my life...those are small things. On the more practical side of things, I don't remember having 2 being that big of a difference. Both of them still took naps so I still had some time to myself each day. When we went out as a family there was a child for each parent to attend to. For me, the adjustment from 2 children to 3 was a much more difficult adjustment. Don't get me wrong, it wasn't horrible. Just difficult. That is when life really started to get busy! :) But, the thing to remember is that children are a GIFT from God. I am floored that He would consider me worthy enough to raise 4 precious, eternal souls for Him. Wow!
My advice- pray about your fears. Give them over to the Lord and embrace any little gifts that the Lord wants to send your way! If you are looking for more specific advice, you'll have to ask, so I get a better picture of what you're looking for. :)
Hope that answered some questions. Like I said I, by no means, claim to have parenting figured out. But I must say, we are getting the hang of it....until the teenage years hit. Oh my....
Thanks for reading!
*Just a note- this is the last of the questions. So, if anyone else out there has any feel free to ask! If not, then I'm back to blogging about laundry, dirty diapers, and maybe a recipe or two. :)*
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